Wow, it’s It’s February! It’s hard to believe that I’m already writing my blog for the month of February! Okay, let’s get the mushy stuff out of the way—you know, hugs, kisses, and lovey-dovey stuff . . . LOL! Please be sure you tell your sweetheart that you love and appreciate them bunches.
As I indicated in my last blog, this month I plan to share with you where I have failed the greatest while traveling down life’s many paths. Ready or not, here it is. I spent many years, more than I would care to admit, worrying about what people thought of me. Yep, this little character flaw has held me back from many wonderful opportunities.
I have learned the hard way that I will never ever be able to please everyone that crosses my path. You see, I spent much time and energy trying to be a people pleaser. Needless to say, I have failed miserably. I had to learn that I will please people some of the time but never all the time.
When I first came to Jesus, I had such an “I don’t care attitude.” However, after a short time of serving the Lord, I came to realize I was being judged by a lot of church folks; so, that’s when I became a people pleaser. Before I go any further, I would like to clarify that if you’re not a Christian, please don’t think I’m slamming Christians. I’m not. Hey, I’m a Christian, just not perfect. Well, God began to show me that I was so worried about what others thought, that I was neglecting my personal relationship with Him. Now that got my attention.
I believe that we all have a divine purpose that God preordained before we were conceived in our mother’s womb. See: Jeremiah 1:5— Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations. God was speaking to Jeremiah about the plan He had for him.
The problem is, many of us are hindered from doing God’s perfect will because we’re so busy worrying what folks think or say about us. Trust me, I’m speaking with credibility. I am fully persuaded that the majority of God’s people dye without ever reaching their fullest potential, simply because they are worried about pleasing people. I would like to remind you that when Jesus walked on this earth, He had very few friends. Everything He did went against the religious and political ruler’s way of thinking. Was He rebellious? No! I mean come on, He was God manifested in the flesh. He was simply fulfilling the perfect will of the Father, even if it meant walking alone.
When I decided to be a God pleaser, I had to come to grips with the fact that not everyone will understand or even agree with me. Nonetheless, I was determined to listen to the voice of God. I reminded myself that God is for me. See: Romans 8:31— What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?
I also stood on the promise that all things work together for the good. See: Romans 8:28—And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
I’m reminded of a character in The Women of Faith Series, Esther. In book one The Crooked Path she was faced with a lot of opposition as she endeavored to pastor a church and raise a teenage daughter. Nevertheless, in spite of the many trails, she continued to trust God. Was she perfect? No. What made her an overcomer was knowing how to be transparent with God. I tell people all the time, if we were perfect, we wouldn’t need Jesus. However, we need to acknowledge our imperfections to a perfect God.
In closing, I would like to share one more scripture.
Deuteronomy 28:13— And the LORD shall make thee the head, and not the tail; and thou shalt be above only, and thou shalt not be beneath; if that thou hearken unto the commandments of the LORD thy God, which I command thee this day, to observe and to do them: